Tom Daley - Something I Want to Say

     
Tom Daley - Something I Want to Say

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So many people will be saying 'Finally !' - or 'I told you so !' or something similar.
But Tom's little video bombshell is not really all it seems to be.
It gives the impression, with its 'wobbly' framing - and impromptu, of the cuff style, that it's Tom just having a personal chat with you.
In reality, of course it's a carefully crafted piece of publicity utilising an autocue.
Realising that Tom was inevitably soon to be 'outed' with a vengence, the video is a pre-emptive strike aimed at damage limitation.
Notice that Tom does not use the words 'gay' or 'coming out'.
He simply states that he has a relationship with a 'guy' - and he adds that he still 'fancies' girls.
Now it was obvious to many, from when Tom was a boy, that he was 'fay' and effeminate - and the bullying at school was from the other boys who perceived Tom as 'gay'.
In addition Tom never had a 'real' girlfriend - just girls who were friends.
Yet Tom (wisely) refuses to allow himself to be given a 'gay' label.
Career-wise, (in terms of advertising) of course, the 'gay' label would be financial suicide.
Only a small percentage of the population would describe themselves as 'gay', and so, for the advertiser, a 'gay' media/sports star would not have sufficient general appeal for them to be a profitable proposition.
However, an even smaller percentage of the population would label themselves 'bi-sexual' (although, in fact, bi-sexuality - to some degree is the normative sexual position), and so Tom is careful to avoid that term as well.
With great skill, he has obviously been advised to present his sexuality in terms of a positive 'relationship' - which just happens to be with a 'guy'.
In addition, the form of the relationship is not specified.
Comment in the media indicates that most people have taken the relationship to be a sexual one - a 'gay relationship', but Daley dosen't use the word 'gay' or sexual in the video.
The way is, therefore, open for him to 'flip-flop', and if things become problematic, to indicate it that the relationship in question was a 'platonic' (non-sexual or non-physical) relationship.
Daley admits in the first part of the video that he has been 'vague' when talking about some 'intimate' matters.
Probably the word 'devious' or 'misleading' would be more suitable.
In this video, however, which puportedly clears everything up, he is equally vague.
All he reveals is that he is having a 'relationship' with a 'guy', and that he feels happy and 'safe'.
The true nature of the relationship is not made clear, the identity of the 'guy' is not given (although his identity is obviously known), and the actual nature of Daley's sexuality is not indicated.
So everything is still very 'vague', and the video is a 'red herring' - a false trail intended to put to right the so called 'misquote'.
It would have been refreshing if Tom had simply said 'I'm gay (or bisexual), and having a gay relationship with .........' (and we all know who), rather than this carefully scripted ramble intended to make the event as anodyne as possible.